Sticking with Winners part 3

I have written about sticking with winners and being a winner for your child. I have also written how teachers and school staff can be winners for students. There is also an important part to this for adults as well. We need to stick with winners ourselves. These people will be those that we can tell anything to in confidence, those that encourage us, and those that will talk at all hours of the night.

Adults need to be supported with winners just as much, if not more than our children. Think about a person you work with who is always negative, never has a positive thing to say, or is always miserable. Is this person a winner for you? Do they uplift you? Do they tell you good job or encourage you? Do you like spending time with this person? Are they good for your self esteem and self worth? If you can not answer yes to these questions, then this person is not a winner for you.

I have found out in the last two months how amazing sticking with winners can be. I had a support group to call on at anytime, but I did not feel like I could bother them with my “stuff” because they have their own things they are dealing with. When I allowed myself to trust these people and to be open and honest with them, it was a huge lift for my self esteem and my emotional health. They encourage me every day by calling, emailing, or texting me. They check in with me, especially during difficult times. I know I can call on these people at any time, day or night, and they will be there for me. These are my winners. These are the people I want to spend my time with when I can.

There are people that I have had to let go and quit hanging around because they were not winners for me. They made me feel inadequate, incapable, and incompetent. Whenever something good happened for me, they found a negative to it to bring me down. There are others that were a bad influence on me. They encouraged risky behaviors and taunted and picked at me until I went along. Sometimes these people can be best friends, family members, or coworkers and it can be very hard to get away from them. There are some family members that I don’t spend time with anymore because they are not winners for me. There are co workers that I avoid because they are not helpful to me. It is a choice, often difficult, to make about who are winners and non winners in your life. The best litmus test for me has been how I felt after an experience with a person. If I felt uplifted and supported, I know that person is a winner for me. If I felt nervous, upset, or let down, then I know that person is not a winner for me.

Sticking with winners are very important to everyone. We all need winners in our lives. Can you think of who are the winners in your life? Are there some who are not and you need to get rid of? Who are you a winner for?